Change Your Myth, Change Your Story
How Your Subconscious Creates Your Reality
This podcast was originally shared inside of the Futurewriting Collective as a private podcast episode. Enjoy.
I don't know about you, but I always learn the most about how much power I have to create reality when I look at my miscreations—when I look at my mistakes, my failures, when I look at the places in my world and in my life where I have had really terrible thinking about myself and the world around me.
I can remember very specific times where I just thought that the world was ending. And what I created around me were multiple experiences of the world ending over and over and over again in micro expressions.
I remember experiences of being in relationships where I would assume negative things were going to happen. I would mistake these fearful assumptions for intuition and treat them as truth. What I discovered was that these negative assumptions had their own momentum—they would actually create the very experiences I was dreading, as if thinking or speaking them gave them power to manifest.
The Power Living in Your Assumptions
This isn't about creating superstition around saying things out loud or being positive or negative.
This is about looking at why this happens.
We have so much power to create reality. And this power exists not just in you saying things out loud, but in the assumptions that are living in your subconscious. The subconscious holds your code, so to speak. It holds your template for what is true or what is possible for you.
In those moments when I was having a really frustrating experience and I realized a moment later that I had created that, I really had to wake up to: What is inside of me? What part of me was creating more of this?
Taking Radical Responsibility for Your Myths
Now, we can get nuanced with this piece. This does not mean that if you had something terrible happen to you that you attracted that. I'm not talking about that. I’m not talking about half-baked Law of Attraction theories (plus, I don’t work with the Law of Attraction).
I'm talking about taking radical responsibility for the myths (the constructs you’re holding about the way things are) that are living in your subconscious, and getting curious enough to examine whether or not those myths actually belong to you or belong to an old ancestor or your culture or the political climate right now. And. How much of you is identified with and enmeshed with that myth?
This is what we're talking about when we talk about going deep into the void, going deep into the subconscious, examining these experiences where we are going through descent cycles or moving through a psychospiritual death and rebirth or an initiation. It kind of feels like the world is ending and beginning all at once. Why? Because life offered you an opportunity to descend down into an outdated myth that was living in your body and to deconstruct that mythic template and to reconstruct a new myth in its place.
The way we take responsibility and begin to shift out of these patterns is by examining what subconscious stories and beliefs within us gave birth to these experiences in the first place.
The Stories Governing Your Reality
It's the story that we tell ourselves with conviction about what is true or possible — or the stories that are living in our subconscious — that govern our conscious reality.
When you’ve attracted the same partner over and over. Or, no matter how much money you earn, it all flushes down the drain somehow. Or, you can never ever (no matter how much you love people) seem to get a foothold of belonging within your community, I want to invite you to ask—because I've had to ask myself this question—what else am I capable of creating? If you have magically somehow created the same romantic character over and over and over again and the same financial situation as your mother and your grandmother and before her, what else can you create?
You’re obviously so powerful. Perhaps it’s time to reconfigure your internal myth.
If you find yourself stuck in repeating cycles—whether with money, relationships, or any area where you consistently think "I don't want to be experiencing this anymore"—yet you have subconscious stories running that contradict your conscious desires, it's time to examine those deeper narratives. These subconscious myths often relay that limitation is your only option, that you're powerless to change your circumstances, that this struggle is simply your fate. When these underground stories remain unexamined, they continue to generate the very experiences you're trying to escape.
Again, perhaps it's time to start asking the question: What else am I capable of creating? If I'm capable of creating at this level of destruction, what else am I capable of creating?
Inner Gardening Work
What stories am I telling myself about what is true or possible that made this moment plausible? And how might I intentionally shift how I'm creating to call in experiences that feel good in my body?
This happens at the subconscious level. This is what I call doing Inner Gardening Work. When we go into the body, when we go into the subconscious, and we start to say hello to these old, expired stories that are still making their rounds in our conscious reality, when we shift our myths at the subconscious level, we start to shift the story that we live out in the conscious reality.
How Stories Create Futures
Story is a powerful futurewriting technology, and we're responsible for how we work with it. We're responsible for the stories we tell ourselves. The moment we become conscious of the fact that we're telling ourselves a story—like, for example, you're telling yourself a story that people from your lineage, people from your family, don't make it, don't have resources, aren't fed, aren't loved, that you're following in your mother's footsteps—the moment you become conscious of that story, that is the moment when you become responsible for how you're living it out.
Futurewriting is an opportunity. It's a tool for you to take conscious responsibility for your stories and create futures for yourself, and eventually learn to co-create futures with the collective that actually feel good to exist inside of.
Examples of How Subconscious Stories Shape Reality
This is how story works at the subconscious level:
If we tell ourselves a story that nothing good is possible, that humans are a cancer to this planet, and that we would be better off minimizing our presence as much as possible, then we'll create a future where we experience humanity as a constant disappointment, with no future, no triumph, no hope, no joy. We'll start to see humanity through that lens and it's all sad and destruction—even though this is not actually true.
If we tell ourselves the story that only certain kinds of people make it, are loved or known or met or fed—for example, if we say only a certain kind of pretty person is gonna be the one who gets married in the end—then we'll start to create a future where we will constantly be looked over, unchosen, unknown and unmet, because that's all we're training our bodies to look for.
Your amygdala—the part of your brain that is searching for danger, trying to keep you safe—will train itself to only look for situations that affirm this reality when we tell ourselves that story over and over again.
If we tell ourselves a story that we have to be perfect in order to be paid, in order to be worthy of life-giving relationships, in order to be worthy of being fed and nourished and pampered and loved, we will create a future where that's true. We will create a future in which we are trapped inside the prison of our own perfectionism. And if we break the mold of perfectionism, we risk not being loved, we risk not feeling worthy of being paid.
If we tell ourselves a story that everyone we meet, everyone we love, will always leave in the end, then we will unconsciously create those futures that confirm this idea that people are leaving over and over again. You might even catch yourself in the middle of an argument with your partner thinking, assuming, "Oh, they're just gonna leave anyway." And so then you engage and you act from that assumption.
When We Change Our Myths, We Change Our Stories
When we change our myths, we change the stories that we are living. Story is a powerful futurewriting technology. Our myths are part of this.
Futurewriting is going and descending into the body, into the void, into the subconscious and examining the stories that are living there and getting brave enough to say, "Okay, there are some myths here that are no longer useful."
Then doing the inner gardening work of taking those stories out and seeding your subconscious with new potential, and then rising up, being pulled up by the warmth of the sun into that new identity, into that new potential.
A lot of times what will happen is when you allow yourself to be raised up into that new identity, raised up into that new potential, you'll almost forget what you thought was impossible before.
The Invitation to Examine Your Stories
I invite you to test this for yourself. Begin to challenge the myths you're holding in your subconscious about what you believe is possible.
When you encounter any limiting story about what you can and can't do, pause and ask: "What else is possible here? What else might I be capable of?"
If you're capable of creating difficult, unwanted realities—and those are incredibly powerful creations—then what else might you be capable of bringing into form? The same creative force that generates struggle can generate beauty, abundance, love.
This is the essential question of futurewriting: What else might I be capable of creating?
Going into the void, descending into your subconscious, is about examining what new vision might become available when you change your foundational myths.
Your subconscious stories are the operating system of your reality. Change the code, change the experience. Change your myth, change your story. Change your story, change your world.
